Opponents During Your Divorce

Opponents During Your Divorce

What are the most common types of spouses who divorce?

The various most common types of spouses in the divorce process are the intimidator, the passive aggressor, the victim, the cooperator, the manipulator and the emotional terrorist.

What is a "manipulator" in a divorce?

When you're dealing with a manipulator, you're dealing with somebody who plots to get his or her way and tries to influence the process; sometimes in a good way, sometimes not in a good way. If you know what you're dealing with, you can respond or manipulate in response or not engage. Sometimes a manipulator just is a fool. They try to manipulate everything and you end up in court and they look like a complete jerk. And sometimes they are very clever and you get caught with your pants down.

What is a "cooperator" in a divorce and how can I turn my spouse into one?

A cooperator is ideal: the person who will work with you, try and solve a problem, come up with a constructive solution, not engage in the emotional, psychological, or legal wars, and just work it out. And that doesn't mean the issues are easy, but if people roll up their sleeves and cooperate with each other, problems can be solved. You can turn your spouse into a cooperator if you cooperate, if you wear the right hat, and if your spouse has the potential for being a cooperator. Not everybody does. And if you try too hard to get your spouse to be a cooperator, and he or she cannot be, you can be trounced.