Paying For Sex

Why do men visit prostitutes?

Prostitution used to be a sacred profession, and there were what you call sacred and profane prostitutes. You had your ordinary prostitute who worked for money, and then you had temples in which men could go to see sacred prostitutes; this was a way of using sex to unite with the divine. It stays with us because men need to have the comfort of sex, but may not always be in a relationship. Paying for sex, to me, seems to be an honest way of achieving that comfort, and it's about no-strings-attached sex. You go in, you pay, and you leave. Again, no ties, no commitments.

I have fantasized about seeing a male prostitute, is this normal?

Paying for a male prostitute or escort to take you out for the evening and to have sex with - I don't think there's anything abnormal about it. It's certainly becoming something which is much more accepted by women now, and as women have more money and are often single, women perhaps in their 30s or 40s after divorce, may not want to get involved in another relationship just yet, but they would like some male company for the evening. Why not have a male escort?

I love calling sex lines, why is this?

The attraction of calling sex lines is the fact that sex is there on tap for you when you want it. It becomes a problem if you overuse them. It's only a problem, I'd say, not from the sex point-of-view, but from the fact that you'd probably run into other problems, mainly financial ones. In itself, there's nothing abnormal about using it; it's the same as paying for sex in any way, or having phone sex with somebody, except you don't have somebody who's a partner. Then you probably want to use a phone line to do it - there is no problem with it, as long as you know how to control it.

My husband loves lap dancing clubs, is that normal?

Men like lap dancing clubs in the same way that they like going to the golf club. It doesn't mean an awful lot more to them than a place they like to go and relax. I wouldn't be unduly worried about it. Again, if he's spending huge amounts of money at it, I might be a bit annoyed, but if that isn't the case, I wouldn't really worry about it. For men, it's usually about going out with their friends, having a bit of a laugh and a drink. It means no more to them than that.

My husband frequently visits lap dancing clubs, should I be annoyed?

If your husband is going to a lap dancing club on an extremely regular basis, then you might want to be concerned about what is going on in his mind. What are the things that really attract him to it? I would be concerned that there is some kind of gratification that he gets out of it that is beyond the ordinary pleasure - that it has been becoming an addiction. There is a mild addiction to it, and that may be making him run to that, because these places are expensive.