Personal Transformation And Relationships

What is a "soulmate"?

Let me distinguish three types of relationships. The first type of relationship is a karmic relationship. Karmic relationship is that you learn lessons together but these lessons are kind of individually given to you. You have certain elements in your life that you need to learn. Your partner has certain elements, certain situations to overcome in his or her life. Karmic relationship is that you have a share of minds, your minds are alike, you both love certain movies, and you both love certain food. That's not a soulmate. That's a karmic relationship, 95% of the relationships are this way. Now, the soulmate is more energetically dominated, energy-wise dominated. You have the same frequency, the same vibration as the other person. If you have the same vibration that is innate in your system, in your being you will recognize that. However, you cannot consciously recognize it, but it does feel like that you have met somebody and feel that you have known this person for ages. It's like an instant comfort level. The lessons to be learned in the areas of the different chakras are similar. That's a share of soul, or share of energy which is so profound that it overrides the share of minds.

What are some common misconceptions about soul mates?

Well the first misconception is that the soul mate is the ideal person. A soul mate, you know, if you vibrate the same frequency in the different chakras, you know, and it depends on how many. . .you have seven, so take three out of seven. You feel that instant connection. It's more than a contact. It's a connection. You have something really, really, really deeply in common and you cannot easily get your head around it consciously. Now, the interesting thing is that you think that that's great and easy, but there's also share of minds. And we tend nowadays to look for the similarities of opinions and choices and judgments and then feel that we are connected with each other. With soul mates, it might be another way around. I can be your soul mate and objectively we are a perfect match, but in the mind area, we can have different opinions and complete differences about the view of life or something or a vacation or food or movies or whatever you find out. People tend to focus on the mind stuff. So they've found their soul mate and all of a sudden, it's not the person that is so in tune with what they think about life. Therefore, it's more difficult than a karmic relationship.

What is the secret to attracting a soulmate?

First of all the secret to attracting a soulmate is knowing the mind is how you think about yourself, how you think about a soulmate and how you feel about attracting somebody in your life. How you tell others things and how you speak. Do you speak proactively or do you speak in a destructive kind of way like "I always run into the bad relationships" for instance. That's a destructive way of talking to yourself and if you behave in a certain way, if you are in situations or surroundings where you have shifted the conditions to to attract somebody into your life, that's another part. That's the physical part of it. That's two adults in alignment. People think that they will find their soul mate in a bar. No. Absolutely not. That is not the secret to attracting a soulmate. In order to find a soulmate, you need to put the intention out there and be convinced that that person exists. And when you really feel, think, speak and act accordingly, then you will attract the person into your life that suits you the best.