Romance And The Unconscious

What is the "unconscious"?

If you think of your mind as a house where you store everything, you've got your closets filled with all the stuff you've lived through and everything you've experienced and had happen to you...your subconscious, your unconscious is the basement. Thats the place where you store all the stuff you really don't want to look at. In some instances you haven't seen in so long you wouldnt recognize it as your own anymore. Its the scary basement you probably shouldn't wander on down into without a weapon of some kind. We absolutely all have an unconscious, the conscious is the stuff that we know about ourselves, the things we remember... the unconscious is the stuff that upset us so much that we sorta pushed it away where we can't see it, but it still affects us every day. THIS IS NOT PARTICULARLY TRUE.

How can my unconscious influence my romantic choices?

When we search for a partner, we don't just have conscious needs - (those things that we say we're looking for) whether it's a sense of humor, or a great personality, or whatever. There are also unconscious needs. There are things within us that we really don't recognize we need. Great example: you may have grown up nurturing your parent, and getting great satisfaction from that. If you can find someone who's very needy, you might have a wonderful relationship, because you can get that satisfaction again as an adult, even though you might not say to somebody, "I'm looking for someone who's needy".