Shoes, Men And Dating
Shoes, Men And Dating
Donna Sozio (Author and Relationship Expert) gives expert video advice on: What pre-relationship questions should I ask myself?; What is the 'relationship trickle-down theory'?; What is a man's 'archetype'? and more...
What pre-relationship questions should I ask myself?
Ok, there are three pre-relationship questions that you should ask yourself before you go into the relationship. Because the more information you have, in the beginning, the journey's going to be different. And hopefully more enjoyable. And so they are, who is he? And we're talking beyond being a butt man or a boob man, you know, who is he really. How does he feel about himself and what can you expect from him in the relationship? And you can look at men's shoes and the qualities that they are expressing, the shoe talk. And what they are saying to you in the context of what you want in a relationship, to match that up and see if you want to move forward.
What is the 'relationship trickle-down theory'?
The Relationship Trickle Down Theory is a great tool in dating because it is always true. A man, his first relationship is to himself. His second Relationship is to things including his shoes. And then his third Relationship is to you. And so how he treats himself will trickle down on how he treats his things, his shoes and will trickle down on how he treats you. And so if he is kind of weak in the maintenance department of his shoes, maybe he has all the right shoes, he is a collector, but all of them are run down. It does not matter about the price. I think maintenance is so important in Relationships. You want to make sure he is taking care of himself, taking care of his shoes because that means that there is a high chance that he will take care of you.
What is a man's 'archetype'?
A man's archetype, are classifications of shoes; almost classic classifications of shoes where a man is sort of living out who he wants to be through those shoes. And so, you know if he wants to be a macho type, you are going to see it and it is going to show through in his choice of shoes. There's actually archetypes, archetypes are divided into, archetypes are divided into four classifications. There is work and that represents authority, play that represents vulnerability and fantasy that represents escape and sport and that represents competition. So it's not only the shoes he wears, but also the attitude towards the shoes that are important. So if he is wearing work shoes but he calls them his monkey shoes, he doesn't really feel good about those pair of shoes.
What is the relationship between boys' fantasy cars and men's sneakers?
There is a direct relationship between boys' fantasy cars and sneakers. Men's sneakers. And this is why: because when boys played with fantasy cars they were usually Lamborghini yellow or red, all the fashion flash design, maybe flames on the side. And they had gizmos and gadgets, and super powers. They could do all sorts of things. And so they were a fantasy. And so these boys thought they go to school, they graduate, they work hard, and they get the money and they buy the equivalent car. But if it didn't turn out that well, what the foot industry has done is, if they can't buy a fast car in the street, they can at least buy a comparable fast car for their feet. And that's wear you see the Lamborghini yellow, the fire engine red, and the flames. Maybe a graffiti artist edge. And so there's a big correspondence between those guys. The guys that wear those kinds of shoes, they're very playful, very boy like. They're still very youthful.
What does the 'ubiquitous white sneaker' say about a man?
The ubiquitous white sneaker, the biggest thing that it says is that it says nothing. And it spices up an out fit as much as mayonnaise spices up a sandwich and so men wear the white puffy marsh mellow white ubiquitous sneakers. They're really flying under the radar screen they're non communicators and that's the biggest thing they're communicating, is that they don't communicate. They're kind of the lowest common denominator of shoes and my personal theory is that's why they're "so comfortable."
What is a 'revolutionary white sneaker man'?
What the youth culture has done, the pop culture has done, is they've taken the ubiquitous white sneaker, and turned us on its head. They have turned its non-communicative aspects completely on its head and made it basically shout from the rooftops. These are your independent speakers, your graphic designers, your skateboarding dudes. These are like independent athletes, independent artists, where art has even become a sport in itself with graphic design. So they've totally turned that on its head, added splashes of color, and made a statement out of a non-statement.
What are 'poser props'?
Well let us start with what is a poser? Personally for me a poser is someone that is not authentic. They are trying to be something that they are not and so to do that, they have to have all these props around them. They are trying rather than being. And shoes are sometimes their ticket to ride. Someone wants to think they are a rock star. They buy a pair of rock star boots, suddenly they want everyone to buy tickets to hear their garage band. That would be a poser and he is using his shoes as a poser prop. So if there is a change in the wind in the relationship. Suddenly your man wants you to call him captain daddy or chief. If he has your people call his people. If there is a change in the wind, make sure that he is not using his choice in shoes, and usually it is a new choice in shoes, as poser props to be something that he is not. And make sure that he is not using you as a poser prop too.