Specific Dating And Relationship Advice
How do I get someone to commit to a serious relationship?
In order to get somebody that you're dating to commit to a serious relationship, you have to tell them what you want out of the relationship; you have to be honest. They may not accept it, they may not want to have a committed, serious relationship, but at least you put it out there.
How can I get my boyfriend or girlfriend to treat me better?
If your boyfriend or your girlfriend is not treating you the way you want to be treated, you need to tell them about it. Speak up. They're not a mind reader. You need to tell them what specifically it is that they're doing or not doing that's not pleasing you. You are the one that needs to take responsibility for this. On the other hand, if they don't accommodate you and they don't address what you requested, the relationship will never work.
How can I help my partner deal with emotional trauma?
When your boyfriend or girlfriend is going through some emotional trauma, or some emotional upheaval, don't take it personally. What you need to do is be there for them; be that strong shoulder for them to cry on or lean on. Don't give them advice about their emotional trauma, don't tell them what to do. Just be there to let them vent, because that's what they really need at this point.
How can I help my girlfriend or boyfriend deal with addictions?
If your boyfriend or your girlfriend are engaging in self destructive behaviors, like using drugs or alcohol, you need to put your foot down. You need to stop the destructive behavior as best as you can. You need to get your boyfriend or girlfriend into a rehab program. You need to get them into an intervention. You need to do whatever you can to let them know that their self-destructive behavior is unacceptable. You need to do it with love. You need to tell your boyfriend or girlfriend that you're doing this because you love them, and you don't want them to hurt themselves. However, you do need to speak up and do whatever you can. The relationship may be over because you've done this, but that's okay. At least you don't have guilt in your system, and at least you've done whatever you can to try to save your boyfriend or girlfriend's life.
How do I get my boyfriend or girlfriend to stop being controlling?
If you have a controlling boyfriend or a controlling girlfriend, you need to set boundaries. You need to let them know that there are certain things they cannot say or there are certain things they cannot do. You have to speak up. You have to communicate. Because they're not mind readers, they don't know. They may not even think they're being controlling. You may think they're being controlling, but when you have a dialogue about it, you may realize, "Hmm, they're not so controlling after all." You have to talk, you have to communicate.
How do I get my girlfriend or boyfriend to stop nagging me?
If your girlfriend or your boyfriend is nagging, what you need to do is ask them what it is they really want from you. If the person is saying “Pick up your clothes, do this do that”, then what they're trying to say between the lines is that they are not happy that you're a slob, or they're not happy that you are not doing what they want you to do. So the key is you're not addressing what their needs are. That's what the real problem is. Nagging is only a symptom of what is not being done.
How do I deal with my girlfriend or boyfriend's jealous behavior?
If your boyfriend or girlfriend is showing jealous behavior, maybe there's a reason that they're jealous. Maybe you're doing something to create that jealousy in them. Maybe you're flirting too much. Maybe you're not available when you say you are. Maybe you're doing something that's making them feel suspicious. What you need to do is communicate with them and make them not feel jealous by assuring them that you're their only one, that they're your only one and that they have nothing to be jealous about.
How do I deal with my feelings of jealousy regarding my girlfriend or boyfriend?
Sometimes we may be jealous just at the thought that our boyfriend or our girlfriend is with somebody else, but it has nothing to do with them; it has to do with us. Our jealousy is to do with our own insecurity and our own fear. What we need to do is address that fear and express that fear to our boyfriend or our girlfriend, and let them know that jealousy is something that we're feeling. Again, open communication between you and your boyfriend or girlfriend says it all.
What's the best piece of advice you can give regarding dating?
My best advice for dating is be open minded. Have fun, don't be so serious, don't be so intense, enjoy yourself.
What's the best piece of advice you can give regarding relationships?
By best advice for having a good relationship: communicate, communicate, communicate, communicate!