Talking To Men
Talking To Men
Michele Hubatsek (Dating Coach) gives expert video advice on: What should I say to a man when I'm interested in him?; What if I find out a man I'm talking to has a girlfriend?; How do I make a man feel comfortable when I'm talking to him? and more...
What should I say to a man when I'm interested in him?
If you're interested in a man when you meet him, it's not so important what you say as how you say it. It's also important that you're paying attention to him, you're listening to him. If you're showing a little cleavage, and you're interested in what he's saying, you're going to be fine. If you're interested in him making contact again another time and you'd like to spend time with him, say, "I really enjoyed talking to you tonight. I'd love to continue this conversation another time."
Does it help to brag about myself a little when talking to men?
I don't think bragging about yourself when you approach a man or are talking to a man for the first time is a good idea. Be yourself. Encourage them to talk; ask questions; be interested. But bragging about yourself is not going to come off in the right way.
Should I ask a man if he has a girlfriend?
I don't recommend that you ask a guy straight out if he has a girlfriend. If he hasn't brought it up and he's approaching you, he's probably going to lie to you anyway. But you could work it into the conversation somehow. Whatever you're talking about, bring it up, "What would your girlfriend say about that?" Look for a reaction in his face. If something drops or changes quickly, he's probably not telling you the truth. If it looks like he had to think about it, be careful. There might be something there you want to know.
What if I find out a man I'm talking to has a girlfriend?
If, in the course of your conversation, you find out the man has a girlfriend already, if you're having a good time and she's not there, you're not threatening, continue the conversation, and when you're ready to move on, move on. If you're not having a good time, get out.
What if I run out of things to say to a man?
If you are talking to someone and you run out of things to say, ask another question, ask anything. "What is it you're wearing? Where did you get that from?" - anything to keep the conversation moving. If you're really done and you don't have anything else to say, just end the conversation. Say, "It was so great meeting you" and move on.
Is it best to be with friends when you're going out to meet men?
I think it's best to be with one or two friends when you're out and you're trying to meet men. If there are too many, if there's a pack of you, that's going to be a little overwhelming and men aren't going to approach you. Also, I wouldn't recommend going out on your own. You're just lonesome prey all by yourself; men are going to drive you crazy.
What if I am nervous when I'm talking to a man?
If you're nervous when talking to a man, the best thing to do is just remember to breathe. Focus and listen to what they're saying. People are so afraid of dead time. There has to be something every second. It's not really that important. Just be present, breathe, and enjoy yourself.
How can I successfully transition from talking to one man to another?
If you're trying to transition from talking to one man to talking to another, this can be very tricky. Sometimes it's easy, if the guy starts talking to the bartender, you could easily turn your body and start talking to someone else, and maybe that works. It is tricky, though. Probably the easiest thing to do is to excuse yourself. Leave for the bathroom, come back, and start again somewhere else.