The Cougar In You
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The Cougar In You
Lucia . (Author, "Lucia's Lessons of Love") gives expert video advice on: What is a 'cougar'?; How did the term cougar come about?; What are the characteristics of a modern day cougar? and more...
What is a 'cougar'?
A cougar is an attractive older woman, generally over 40, that exclusively dates younger men. Now there is a bit of an issue with the fact that cougars are generally thought to be just in it for the sex. However, there are those older women that actually date young men, have relationships with them and want to be married to them. And those are also known as cougars, so sometimes there's an issue with the term cougar.
How did the term cougar come about?
The term cougar is thought to have originated in the late 80's in the dressing room of the Vancouver Canucks Hockey team. They called the older single women that came to their games 'cougars' and it took off from there.
What are the characteristics of a modern day cougar?
A modern day cougar is generally attractive, in shape, independent and sexually savvy.
How big of an age difference is required for a woman to be considered a cougar?
Generally it's a ten year age difference for a woman to be considered a cougar.
Does a woman have to be hot in order to be considered a cougar?
Well, generally, cougars are thought of as hot, but of course, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So, as long as the guy finds the woman hot, then it's going to work.
Who paved the way for cougars?
I believe that Demi Moore kicked off what I call the "Cougar Revolution." She made dating younger men, and marrying younger men more socially acceptable and everyone is following suit. Madonna is also married to a man ten years younger, and of course Cher back in the day was dating younger men left and right. So these three women really paved the way for everyone else.
Do people ever find the term cougar offensive?
The term cougar can be looked at in two ways. The first way is as a predator, which is what most people think, that the young man is the innocent victim and the older woman comes along and with one swipe of the paw she grabs him and drags him back to her den and he wakes up a few hours later and goes, "What happened?" But that's generally not how it goes down. On the other hand, you can look at it positively, when you think of a cougar and you think of the characteristics, like all big cats, its sleek, strong, sexy, confident and in control. So it's ok to be a cougar.
Do you think dating younger men is a trend?
I believe that dating younger men is a trend currently but I don't think it's a trend that's going away. It will be around forever now that it's started and it's not going anywhere and within fifteen or twenty years it's really not going to be a big deal anymore.
How many women are dating younger men these days?
In a recent survey by the AARP has found that 34% of women over 40 are dating younger men. In recent years 25% of brides have been older than their grooms. A recent survey by Cosmo found that almost 30% of men would be willing to date older women.
Tips & Comments
I thought a cougar was someone that is 40 or older. I've heard it that way for the last 5 years. I've some sites like this and have joined a few, I prefer the site Cougarconnecting.com because they give lifestyle and "den" (bar/club) information on where to find cougars around the US/Canada. The cougar phenom got rolling with Demi dating Ashton now it is getting more publicity. I think people need to remember what a cougar is though, it starts with being over 40.
How to date a cougar? The tips from the famous cougar dating http://www.cougarkiss.com may help you: Step one: Play like you think she's really smart and experienced. Step two: Scoff when she says she has shoes older than you. Proper response: "And your point?" Step three: Feign surprise when she tells you her age, then--counterintuitive as it sounds to step one--tell her you like women who are older because girls your age "don't know what they're doing." Let her draw her own conclusions about the "doing" you're talking about. The logic: Make her feel being older is an asset you covet. (She'll be less threatened by your same-age female friends.)
Most young men wake up after a few years and get out.
I love the MILFs and GILFs, just love 'em.
I am 33 and my wife is 43. We have been married for 8 years. I love her more than life itself. and would lay my life down for her. She is my every dream. And she loves me back. I have no regrets. She is a stay at home. And i give her what i can.Im totally in love.
As a woman matures she looks at a younger male as physcial attractive first! and if it the flame escalates equally than it might become a long term relationship.
dang this chick is a cougar too!
Why not have a younger man. Younger men are attacted to me, and I am attracted to them. Older men with younger women has been acceptable forever. Trump, Douglas, etc. I'm all for it!
age difference is important for long term satisfaction in a healthy relationship. 10 years or more age differnce is just ridiculuous, and to be honest, those relaitonships probably occur because of looking for an adventure,just for sex for a period of time, need a mother figure, need to found attractive by young men (social approvement ) or the woman or the man has status, prestige, money or pasaport , so they both have sex and live the adventure or other needs for a temporary time and get what they really want in terms of material interests.
Age should be irrevalant...it should not be what society thinks is right..it should be between the ones involved...older..younger...it is how two people get along...and that is what is important....don't let..society..religion...family interfere...