What To Do About Relationship Stress
Is a relationship with a level-three relationship stress level salvageable?
A level-three relationship can be salvageable, but it involves a lot of work now. You've got to sort of go to your separate corners and take a good look, both at what you're fighting about, but also, and maybe more importantly, how you're fighting. What is it that you're doing in the course of interacting with your partner that's causing this unending stress? When you look at that, it can give you clues about what's in your unconsciousness that hopefully you can deal with, and also what's in your partner's consciousness that you're accidentally setting off all the time?
Is a relationship with a level-four relationship stress level salvageable?
A relationship that's in level-four stress probably needs deep, deep therapy. What happens is, you forget how to communicate when you hit level four and it becomes impossible to go back to your corner and figure out why communication is broken down and to reawaken those great feelings you had in the first couple of stages of your relationship. That's the time when you need a third party to sit with both of you, take an evaluation of how you got here and calmly give it back to you so you can work on it alone together.
What factors can help a couple maintain level-one relationship stress?
If you find yourself in a level-one relationship, find my website and write to me and tell me how you did it. Because I've never figured it out and I've never met anyone who has figured out how to truly have a stress free relationship. We all have some amount of stress, and it's really sort of important that we do because it means that we are having real human interactions.
