When To Propose
How do I decide when to pop the question?
I think that you should decide early in the relationship. It all depends what she loves, you've got to ask her questions or ask her friends what she would like for her fairy tale proposal. When the time is right, that is right you pop the question.
How should I choose the time of year to propose?
Choosing the time of year to propose is really dependant upon several things. Maybe you choose the time to propose based on when you met, kind of to commemorate an anniversary. Maybe you choose the time to propose based on her favorite time of year. Sometimes winter coats make her feel great. So really it depends on what is it she loves because a proposal should be tailored to her needs.
Should I propose at a time that is significant only to my girlfriend and me?
In many cases that is what people prefer. Why? Because they can remember the reason for the proposal. Whenever they look across a crowded room they knew that the moment was significant. It is not absolute but can be recommended.
Should I propose at a family gathering?
In some cases, it's the perfect time, because the family that's involved, and gets very thick together likes to be involved in that proposal. Make sure you get the people that are key to you involved in it, so they know and they're appropriately surprised. In some cases that's not the right thing to do. A more intimate, quiet proposal is the way to go. Something else to consider, when considering proposing at a family gathering, is who do I let know? Do I want to ask her parents? If her family's there, do I want her parents to know first? Do I ask my parents? Is my brother going to be upset at me because he's surprised and he wanted to know? Or, are people going to be upset because I told them ahead of time? So really, there are a lot of things to consider. You're the expert at knowing your family. You know your family better than anyone else, so think about the possibilities of the audience, and then make a decision based on that.
Should I propose in a public place?
Proposing in a public place is very, very neat for the couples that enjoy the public life. In some cases, surprising her in public in a room full of strangers is the proposal that she's dreamt of. In other cases, she really would prefer something more quiet and more intimate. You'll know her best. If she's talked about being proposed to or if she's excited about her friend's proposal that took place in public, then maybe that's the way to go with her, too.
Should I propose on her birthday?
Proposing on her birthday can be a great thing. For the guy it helps you remember two things with one, her birthday and the day you proposed. But really a lot of guys want to separate the two. Because you want the proposal date to be special and perfect on it's own. You want to celebrate her birthday for it is, which is her birthday, a completely different day of celebration.
Should I propose on Christmas?
Proposing on Christmas can be a lot of fun. I've known folks that have actually hidden the engagement ring in a Christmas ornament and as part of the gift-opening ceremony they've proposed that way. If that's something that seems fitting, if it is something that her family would enjoy then I would recommend that you propose on Christmas. Otherwise, Christmas Eve is a great evening to propose as well as New Year's Eve.
Should I propose on New Year's Eve?
Proposing on New Year's Eve is really great. If she is expecting it, what you might want to do if you want to be a little bit adventurous, what you might want to do is let midnight come and go and don't propose. As her spirits are a little bit down because she is expecting a proposal, then you get on your knee in front of everybody and profess your love and propose at that point. Otherwise, New Year's Eve is a fantastic time for a proposal.
Should I propose on Valentine's Day?
Valentine's Day proposals are also a great idea. You can put her ring in a box of chocolates. You can dress up as Cupid and show up at her work and propose that way. For sure, a Valentine's Day proposal is one she will never forget. Because after all, that is the day that is designated for lovers.
What are thel pros and cons of proposing on a holiday?
The pros are, that there's a day that everyone celebrates with you. There's a day that is consistent throughout the years. And you always know that you're going to remember that date. The negatives or cons to proposing on a holiday; is that everybody else celebrates right along with you. It kind of takes the special meaning out of proposing to her. And it isn't just your day, you have to share it with everyone else.
What is the weirdest time you've heard of someone proposing?
Just recently, a very good friend of mine recounted a story to me. Her friend and his girlfriend, his intended, were at a picnic, and her purse got stolen. And when she realized her purse got stolen, that's the moment he picked to propose. So, I would say that that ranks right up there with one of the weirdest times for a proposal. So stay away from tragedies when you're proposing.
