Well , even though i partially agree with all these comments about not being over him, the best revenge is to move on etc etc yadda yadda, sometimes it's best to cut yourself a break and get some SWEET OLD REVENGE on your ex, particularly if it was him that spolied your once good relationship. The most satisfying revenge is planned, creative, fitting and works beautifully. To begin planning your masterpiece, first enlist the help of some friends, if at all possible: it may help your creative juices flowing in a group rather than going solo. In your situation, it may help to get other female friends who've just been dumped, some of HIS friends who don't like him, or better still, some of his other ex's, if possible. Agree on the sort of tactics you want and work as a group. Is this revenge going to be small time and petty, or one huge bonanza of sweet sweet glorious revenge, the sort that will go down in history? Next, you should KNOW THINE ENEMY. Does he love his car more than he loves girls? Does he have a particular interest or hobby? Was it another woman or person that were invloved in you two spiltting up? A really satisfying revenge technique is to hit him hard where it hurts the most. Destroy his favourite objects, ruin his relationships, stop him from doing his favourite passtimes. So, slash his tyres, find a new hot guy for his current girlfriend, or somehow make him shatter his ankle so he cant do rock climbing anymore. BE CREATIVE. Don't go for the obvious. Keep him on his toes. Find odd ways of getting revenge, like leaving tacks around rather than directly popping his tyres, or replacing sugar with salt or something. They key is to be inconspicuous. Don't get caught, don't feel guilty, and most of all, enjoy it. You deserve a break. Be confident and happy afterwards, knowing that you are free to get on with your life. Good luck :)
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Sometimes it's pretty hard to tell if a guy loves you, sometimes they don't want to show too much emotion or go too fast. But there are some ways to tell :) Check for ownership gestures and making lots of eye contact (not looking at anything else..its in the eyes). Does he smile a lot when he's with you? Also, does he make an effort with you? Is he interested in pleasing your family and friends (within reason)? Does he remember details about your likes/dislikes? When you're feeling upset, is he the first one that is at your side, trying to cheer you up? Does he look after you when you're upset and vunlerable? If yes to most of these then it's probably love. Also, a man might get a little jealous if you talk to other men, though he probably won't say, he'll just look uncomfortable. IMPORTANT: if he starts actually refusing you contact with other men altogether or he starts interfereing he's CONTROLLING and not loving. If he's a bit shy then he might say things like " i love what you're wearing" or " i love your laugh" or " i love your hair" etc etc, to test your reaction.
Men can be confusing creatures to our sex, though. My current long term boyfriend used to do the old "love/hate" trick on me. For months beforehand he took the mickey out of my height with his mates but when we were on our own we talked a LOT about everything. I started loving him but i thought he hated me (there was this whole "i still like my ex" thing going on with him) until one day he spontaneously told me he actually loved me, he had done for ages, and would i possibly go out with him? We've now been together for over six months and i can safely say that i had no idea he even liked me. But if you're in a relationship there shouldn't be any of that difficulty.
Unfortunately, there's no 100% foolproof method. The best way to tell his true feelings come with lots of quality time spent together :)
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